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The Day of Silence is an annual event held to bring attention to anti-LGBT bullying, harassment and discrimination in schools. Students and teachers nationwide will observe the day in silence to echo the silence that LGBT and ally students face everyday. In it’s 11th year, the Day of Silence is one of the largest student-led actions in the country.
Ask yourself what are you going to do to end the silence? Do your part to get involved by visiting DayofSilence.org.
I found this article on the Rainbow Network and think that all us gay guys would much benefit from reading it. Especially considering many of us are getting ready to visit the folks. Thanks Richard Bevan for giving us a way to survive the holiday!
For the average, young gay man and woman, who escaped the brain dead parochialism of small town life, the idea of actually being dragged back to the family home – usually without their significant other- is about as enticing as visiting the GUM clinic. It’s not so much the prospect of playing Cluedo with siblings, cousins, nieces and Aunties that is so daunting, more the apprehension that at any moment a spotlight of interrogation may fall on you over the 100th screening of The Sound of Music, or while scoffing a turkey sandwich.
“Are you courting yet?” “Can’t be a bachelor all your life!” “You don`t want to stay on the shelf too long my dear!”
Are just some examples of family probing round the dinner table, particularly if everyone assumes you’re either a Hetty stud or a girl waiting for her dream boy. Let’s face it, the majority of adult children visit their parents and family out of guilt rather than actually wanting to spend time with them. Particularly if they happen to be a bunch of Daily Mail reading whingers. Even if you do love ‘em, bless their ‘curtain twitching’ cotton socks.
As many of you know today is World Aids Day. I know for many Aids may seem like a lost cause or a disease that only touches other people but that is not the case. New reports by UNAIDS and the World Health Organization (WHO) indicate that, as of 2006, the epidemic continues to spread in every region of the world. By now more than 65 million people have been infected with HIV and well over 25 million people have died of AIDS since 1981, 2.9 million in 2006 alone. At this rate, the WHO predicts that in the next 25 years another 117 million people will die, making AIDS the third leading cause of death worldwide.
AIDS isn’t something we should just keep in mind on one day of the year but it should play a part in your every day life. Stay informed, share your knowledge, give your support, but more importantly play safe!
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Today as many of you know is National Coming Out Day. Can’t you just hear the Diana Ross song playing in your mind? Well, I know coming out was a struggle for many of us but I encourage everyone to come out today and share your stories.
Also the Human Rights Campaign Foundation is celebrating with a Talk About It campaign, which I encourage everyone to learn more about by visiting the HRC website. So all of you sexy queerlings share your coming out stories with us by posting a comment and just maybe your story will help and inspire someone to come out today!
When you’re a picky guy like myself it’s not always easy finding that special someone and casual encounters have never been my thing. Luckily for me when I get the urge I know I can indulge in a special way. That’s right I’m talking phone sex. I know phone sex isn’t for everyone, not everyone can be comfortable expressing themselves in this way but if you’ve thought about it or even tried and failed I have a few pointers for you.
So if you’ve been thinking about phone sex take note, courtesy of Rainbow Network because, let’s face it, you need them!
Probably one of the most important things to remember about phone sex is to just ‘go with the flow’. Yes, it’s a little embarrassing, yes, you feel like a complete moron, but hey, you’re not face to face so who cares.
First, The Don’ts!
If you’ve ever done or considered doing any of the following, be afraid - you’re insane!
* Don’t eat. I’m not sure the sound of you eating crunchy nut cornflakes will really do it for him (I could be wrong). See the do’s for acceptable phone sex eating habits.
* Don’t watch TV. EastEnders may be interesting for you, but the sound of Pat Butchers voice has been known to counteract Viagra.
* Don’t talk to your mum. Shouting down the stairs to mummy (for those of you still home bound) has never been less acceptable. (Or perverted).
* Don’t fall asleep. This goes without saying, but you’d be surprised, a little too much wine and you’re a gonna. (See do’s for alcoholic tips).
* Don’t laugh. Yes it’s embarrassing, yes, you feel silly, but you’re being sexy not impersonating a hyena. If you laugh, he wont be, not inside, he will just ask himself why he ever got with such a looser.
* Don’t yawn, sigh, huff or show any signs of un-interest. It’s a mood breaker and it’s not sexy at all so if you do want to yawn, turn it into a groan.
* Finally – don’t bore him to death. Your usual ‘Oh yeah, oh yeah’ wont cut it, nor will loud shrill noises or fake sexy sounds, so don’t.
Now, The Do’s!
So, now we know what your not doing – and let’s all pray your not doing any of the above - we can now decide what we should be doing. A few of these and your man will explode so hard you will feel it from across town.
* Do tell him everything. Describe every sensation right down to the tingle in your balls. And yes, he does want to know you can feel the blood pumping.
* Do use descriptive words. It’s not just what you say, but how, so be descriptive. It’s all about the detail my friend. (Leave out the gross stuff, it’s not essential that you tell him you farted mid masturbation).
* Do have Dutch courage. A little tipple will help you relax and feel free to explore new ground. Remember you’re not an alcoholic, so take it easy or you will just slur and dribble.
* Do let him hear you. If you really feel a sexy noise coming, then go with it. He will love knowing what he is saying turns you on.
* Do play out a fantasy. If you have always wanted him to take you from behind, while you’re unpacking the food shopping, you go girl. Make him feel like your really there.
* Do play with yourself. This is for real, he will know if you’re faking. So give it all you got. Get frisky. (Try not to climax to early you selfish sod, wait for him).
* Do repeat what he likes. If you say something and you get a good response, use it more. If he likes you saying cock, use it. Don’t change to willy, because your not 10 years old.
* Do suck on something. Obviously at the appropriate time. If you’re sucking his ‘man piece’ then why not describe it, then revert to sucking a banana. (The banana will love it, and so will your man). Note: no munching on it or you will sound like a gobbling pig.
While there are many do’s, the most important is description. Believe me when it comes to phone sex, description is your best friend.
Yes guys the work week is once again upon us…boring! However taking small mind breaks to refresh is something I always look forward to and since I’m sure lots of you visit Queer Bites for just that I thought I would provide some helpful tips on how to play it safe at work, courtesy of Best Gay Blogs.
* Show Desktop in a hurry
* Use the Alt - Tab with preview Replacement
* Use Tabs in your browser
Show Desktop
Show desktop is a great way to shrink, or minimize all of the active applications on your desktop in one click. By clicking on Show Desktop, the computer neatly and quickly tucks away everything in your desktop. This is a great way to instantly hide PORN on your desktop if someone comes by. The Show Desktop icon is in the Quick Launch menu, a menu for small icons located right next to the Start button. If it is not displayed, you can easily adjust your settings using the Taskbar and Start Menu icon in Control Panel.
Alt & Tab with Preview Replacement
The regular Alt and Tab is a great way to get from your currently viewed PORN page back to your boring spreadsheet. One of the challenges is trying to figure out when your using Alt and Tab on what each active application is, and what they look like. For example, if you have several web browsers all open, one has the work but all the rest have PORN, which one do you switch to? It’s like workplace Russian Roulette! Download and use Alt and Tab with Preview and you will get a thumbnail version of your internet page before you decide to go to it. This application is available from Microsoft’s Powertoys and is FREE!
Use Tabs in your Browser
Using multiple browsers is confusing and chaotic. You find your self switching back and forth between the company web site and PORN! The time it takes to switch back and forth is frustrating, not to mention all the windows that you have open, one for each site you visit. You do NOT need to open up multiple browsers now that TABS are available. Some browsers have it built in, and other let you add on, but you can open up multiple tabs within one browser neatly organizing all your web pages in one application. They make it easy to switch back and forth between work and PORN!
Editor Comment: Many companies block and/or track content you view at work - be sure to understand your company policies to be sure to stay in compliance and keep your ass employed. 
Last night I put in a DVD I hadn’t seen in a really long time, The Object of my Affection. This has always been one of my favorite movies even though the book from which it was based is much better. Still it’s been one of my favorites because it centers on the relationships between gay men and straight women or as they’re more commonly known “fag hags.”
Now you won’t find a definition for this term on a dictionary but according to Wikipedia a Fag Hag is a slang term, either abusive or affectionate, for a woman who enjoys the company of gay men. Gay men and fag hags often share a very close friendship, generally closer than they have with other women or men. It is this close friendship that is the hallmark of the fag hag relationship.
I’ve never thought it to be an offensive term. I refer to my closest girlfriends as fag hags with the utmost love and affection. After all they’re the only ones I can truly confide in. All my life my friends have been women it’s just natural for me and if you’re to believe Hollywood then for us gays a woman best friend is the utlimate accessory and vice versa. I do however wonder how women feel about the whole gay man/straight woman relationship. Do they welcome it? Hate it? Resent it? Maybe there’s a better term for it. Most of my girlfriends love me but of course that’s probably just because I’m such a sweetheart. I don’t know, what do you guys think?
It’s funny how you think you know someone until they decide to talk about what goes on in their bedroom and then you realize wow who are you? This happened over Sunday lunch yesterday. I was casually dipping my fork into my side of salad dressing when my friend leans into me and asks if I’ve ever tossed the salad. I looked at him confused not sure if he was really asking me what I thought he was asking me. Luckily I never had to answer his question. As usual that was only the lead in for him to readily divulge what happened to him the night before.
Having lost my appetite for salad I put down my fork and sipped on my water as he told his forbidden tale. It seems his friend of the moment surprised him with a dip into the forbidden as he was going down on him. He tried to act surprised but please I’ve known him long enough to see past his innocent façade. However that led me to wonder just how common is it? Does the taboo really exist or is it just something created by society because no one wants to admit to going there? After all anyone who’s watched gay porn (and you’re a liar if you say you haven’t) knows that it’s part of the sex routine. It comes right after tea bagging and before fucking. Or am I alone in thinking that? I want to know.
Oh and did you know that The act of simultaneously performing anilingus and a hand job on a man is referred to as a rusty trombone, because of the general motions’ similarity to the playing of a trombone, and the colour of faecal matter resembling rust. Just a little something for you to think about the next time you want to try something a little different.
Spy on any casual gay discussion and chances are the topic will eventually turn to dick size. Face it guys we can get pretty obsessed with not just size but also girth, two things that no matter how much plastic surgery evolves you will never be able to enhance.
So what makes us so fascinated with dick size? After all isn’t it true that it’s not the size of the sea but the motion of the ocean? Or is that just something not so average guys came up with to make themselves feel better?
I can attest that I’ve been with my fair share or long dongs and have found that they’re of the mentality that just because they’re packing they don’t have to put any effort into their performance. That’s not to say that every guy has been like that but it’s true of a good few. It’s kind of like they’re their own number one fan. They just lay back, wait for your reaction, and then admire with you. Sorry guys but it takes more than that for me.
At the same time guys that are small always feel like they have to give you a heads up. Why must they come with a disclaimer? Have we become so jaded by size that we think we can only be satisfied with porn star proportions? I have to say that nothing is more of a turn off than a guy that feels the need to warn you beforehand. Big, small, thick, or think you ultimately are always after the same result so what should it matter how it’s packaged.
Still just because it is such a common thing I did a little online research and found a site with an interesting perspective on the whole thing. Sugarbank.com has come up with a Cock/Height Comparator. It’s all in humor especially the way he boasts about his own endowment but it’s still worth a looksie.
Ok, so when it comes down to it penis size will never stop being a fascination to us gay guys just like breast size will never stop being a fascination to the heteros. It’s just something you have to live with and learn to deal. Don’t you think?
In a recent Barbara Walters interview “ladies man” George Clooney claimed to have already played a gay when he played the caped crusader in 1997’s Batman & Robin. According to Clooney, “I was in a rubber suit and I had rubber nipples. I could have played Batman straight, but I made him gay.” OH PLEASE!!! That’s the funniest thing I’ve heard since I heard they were making Ocean’s 13.
Obviously Mr. Clooney has no idea what the definition of homosexuality is. I really hope he doesn’t think he can get away with using us as his scapegoat for what’s one of many bad performances on his part. I have to agree that I have always thought the whole Batman and Robin relationship was a little on the gay side but to come out with a statement like this almost ten years later is just ridiculous. Way to jump on the bandwagon Clooney. Well you finally got your Oscar maybe now you’ll do us the favor and fade into obscurity.
